This year we will add members' comments to the EA Trustees' thoughts on the monthly reflection. In the early 1950’s Twelve Steps groups began informally sharing what became known as the Principles of the 12 Steps, which will be our focus in 2018. Each Step has a corresponding Principle to keep in mind. The Principles are found in the It Works If You Work It book on pages 33-34.
Principle 1: Honesty. Step 1: We admitted we were powerless over our emotions - that our lives had become unmanageable.
The principle of honesty, in working the EA program, calls us to be authentic and genuine as we approach our recovery. When I take an honest look at myself and my life, I get to look at the good and the bad. It's about a fair assessment - taking stock of things. To be honest in daily living is to be straightforward in dealing with myself and my world. If I avoid patterns of blaming others and if I stop making excuses for why I'm not doing my program work, I'm being honest in working the EA program. Scott J., Vice President/Treasurer
In Step One, I had to honestly admit that I could not handle my life by myself alone and that I was powerless over my emotions. I had extreme emotions and was behaving in ways I did not really want to behave. Honest admission that I needed help was the first step on my road to freedom. I asked my first EA sponsor, “How honest do I have to be in my recovery?” She replied, “How well do you want to get?” From then on I knew that honesty was going to be the guiding principle in my recovery. Connie W.
Step One is about honesty and accepting the unmanageability of our lives. Honesty has always been difficult for me. When I admit I have trouble with honesty, I feel like a bad person. Step one is also difficult because when I admit my life is unmanageable, I feel like a failure. As I work through Step One, it will be important for me to reframe how I view myself and who I am. I can feel bad about having trouble with honesty and feel like a failure for the emotional chaos in my life, or I can feel good about admitting these things and taking steps to turn myself and my life around. Chris
It was difficult for me to be honest with myself and others about the unmanageability in my life because of my out of control emotions, but I could not do a good first step until I was able to do that. Susan
If you would like to submit your reflection for publication consideration, email it to firstname.lastname@example.org by the 15th of the month prior to publication. Please keep your submissions to 100 words.